Why you are too clever to coach yourself

Why you are too clever to coach yourself

You are clever, competent, achieving success. What in the USA they call smart. You are good at planning, using your logical brain. Structured thinking is something you excel at. You know how to goal-setting, you can write and implement project plans. In short, you can organise yourself, make plans and get things done. That doesn’t mean that you can do your own coaching. Perhaps you are coaching yourself through change, because You are looking...

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The biggest project you will ever work on in your life

The biggest project you will ever work on in your life

You might feel that the biggest project you will ever work on is the multi-billion dollar deal you are currently developing. Or you might feel that the biggest project you will ever work on is your children – bringing up children is truly an exercise in courage and wonder! These may be the biggest external projects you will ever do but they can only take place because of you. You bring your unique skills experience and personality into the mix....

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Does anyone need a coach?

Does anyone need a coach?

The reality is no one needs a coach. Sports people have coaches. Actors have coaches. But nobody needs that – you could get by in athletics without a coach, you could get by in the acting world without a coach. But you know if this is the way you operate you are never going to reach the pinnacle of your profession. Or get the best out of your life. People who have coaches are people who want more. They want to be expert. They want to...

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Let’s kill the feedback sandwich

Let’s kill the feedback sandwich

Good cop, bad cop, good cop. Nobody is fooled. What does the feedback sandwich achieve? I used to teach Business Skills on a degree course and I set the rules at the beginning of the module. ‘I will not use the feedback sandwich’. Looks of relief, amusement, joy and worry came from the students. The classic approach in academia is that you say something nice, then you tell them something ‘critical’ then you say something nice again. This is so...

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Do you dare to dream?

Do you dare to dream?

Do you dare to dream? Have you got what it takes to go on the craziest flight of fancy? Are you able to use your imagination to create your future? Most of the time we are busy with thinking or doing, not dreaming. But when I speak to busy professionals they tell me what they do most and what is most helpful to them, is to have unstructured time where they might think but they can also reflect, daydream and let their mind meander. This can...

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Are you sitting there like a tadpole when you should be a frog?

Are you sitting there like a tadpole when you should be a frog?

Frogs – what sort of transformation do they go through? One minute a tadpole, swimming in murky water, the next minute sitting at the side of the pond, breathing and blinking. Is there an ‘Oh heck’ moment when they realise they have to breathe air? After 300million years of evolution they know what they are doing and seem well adapted to this incredible, awe-inspiring change. But there are parallels with human change. When some of my clients...

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